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We might be giving feelings far too much say in our decision making process.

When I did my taxes online, a pop-up window asked me how I was feeling about my taxes so far.


Does it matter how I feel about my taxes?

Will how I feel change the requirement to file?

I’m concerned, especially as I look back at hard decisions I had to make when breaking free from domestic violence, that we are using the wrong standard for decision making.

Feelings are inconsistent.

Feelings are easily controlled by others.

Feelings aren’t rational, reasonable, or reliable.

Having been surrounded by abuse for most of my life, I was accustomed to irrational. One day something was alright to do, but not the day after. It wasn’t about the the something, it was about someone maintaining control.

And that’s the thing about feelings, they can be manipulated and combobulated. Sometimes, oftentimes, for the wrong reasons.

There is black and white, and how we feel doesn’t change truth. (Like filing my taxes.)

And by relying on feelings rather than fact and truth, we lose perspective and balance.

There is no standard when everyone feels differently.

Back to my many years of living in abuse.

When feelings were my standard and I failed to see the facts, I was manipulated to believe I was the problem and told when I got it right (which was a made up standard) then he wouldn’t have to do it.

Over time, I aloud fear of (everything) to keep me from leaving, long after I knew my situation wasn’t right.

I found this song from Zach Williams about fear. It’s right on point. Especially when we give feelings irrational priority in our decisions.

Listen to Fear is a Liar.

Focusing on feelings in our decision making process will make us Weary by Wednesday, and a lot of other days too. We will believe lies and make bad choices.

Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe. (Proverbs 28:26)

When I finally put my feelings aside, embraced the facts about abuse and that I was living in abuse, I was able to begin my journey to freedom.

What decisions would you make differently if you fell on the side of facts instead of feelings?

Thanks for sharing your Wednesday with me. I am praying for you.